What Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up?

Steven B. Goldstein, CFP®, CRPC®, RICP®

Vice President, Private CFO®

What do you want to be when you grow up? You were probably asked that question many times when you were a kid.  I always dreaded that question because I wasn’t one of those kids who had a special talent or somehow knew they wanted to be a doctor, lawyer, or whatever.  Sure, I dreamed about being a baseball player when I was little but, as I grew up, I knew that wasn’t going to happen.  Later I dreamed about becoming a rock star (what teenage boy didn’t?) but it was obvious a musical career was never going to be in my future. 

So, I was like many kids and went through school racking my brain to choose a career I would enjoy, be proud of, and most importantly, would enable me to support myself as an adult.  I ultimately chose business, economics, and finance, and here I am many years later working as a personal financial planner. I am now in my 18th year in this career and I feel fortunate that I enjoy doing this. 

You may wonder why I’m writing about this to an audience of adults, some of whom are Baby Boomers and late Gen Xers in their 50’s and 60’s who are at the later stages of their working lives.  For people in these age groups, that question is relevant again (just substitute “work ends” for “you grow up”).

People often seek out financial planners because they want to know when they can afford to retire.  Some say they hate their jobs and are just waiting to retire but, more often, people say they enjoy the work they do but are looking forward to being able to slow down and be free of the demands of their jobs. 

This is where it can get complicated.  The purpose of the financial plan is to enable people to live the best life possible and can afford.  Before we can do the math, we must know the answers to questions such as:

  • How do you want to spend your time?  (e.g., work part-time, start a business, travel, pursue activities). 
  • Where do you want to live?  (e.g., stay put, downsize, move closer to children, relocate to a place with a better climate or lower cost of living)
  • Do you and your spouse agree on your plans?

Too often, the answers I hear are “I don’t know” or “I haven’t thought about it”.  Sure, the first year or two of retirement may be a “honeymoon” period during which you travel and play all the time, but that euphoria eventually wears off. Then what?  We could be talking about 30 years and that’s a lot of time to be filled. 

The bottom line is that it’s important to have a purpose for waking up each morning at every stage of life.  In the later stages, it’s up to the individual to find their purpose. Some people want to work part-time or consult in their field after their career job ends.  Many don’t.  Regardless, research shows that people who are the happiest in retirement are those who invest the time and energy in all aspects of their life:  having fulfilling relationships, enjoying social connections, making a contribution in some way, maintaining your health, enjoying leisure activities, growing as a human being in some way, and incorporating spirituality – whatever that means to you. 1

1 Excerpt from “The Retirement Challenge: A Non-financial Guide from Top Retirement Experts”, 2018.

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The opinions expressed in this commentary are those of the author and may not necessarily reflect those held by Kestra Investment Services, LLC or Kestra Advisory Services, LLC. This is for general information only and is not intended to provide specific investment advice or recommendations for any individual.

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Steven B. Goldstein, CFP®, CRPC®, RICP®

Steve Goldstein is Vice President, Private CFO® with oXYGen Financial, Inc., and is based in Alpharetta, Georgia. He is a 17+ year veteran of the financial services industry. Steve is a retirement-focused financial planner and investment advisor whose mission is to help people live the best life possible during their retirement by making sure their finances provide for their needs and their wants all the way through their lifetime.

Steve started his career in financial services with American Express Financial Advisors in 2002 after working in corporate financial management for many years. He moved to oXYGen Financial in 2008 shortly after the company was founded. Steve earned the CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ designation in 2006, the Chartered Retirement Planning CounselorSM designation in 2008, and the Retirement Income Certified Professional® designation in 2013. His background also includes an MBA degree in Finance and Accounting from the University of Rochester and a BA degree in Business Economics from The State University of New York at Oneonta.

Steve was born and raised in the Bronx, NY, lived for several years in the NY suburbs, and moved to the Atlanta area in 1994 with his wife, Beth, and two children who he proudly says are now responsible adults with good jobs living on their own. In his spare time, Steve enjoys watching sports, exercising regularly, playing classic rock and blues guitar, and tackling home improvement projects.

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